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I know that I am twenty-one, and being this young, I should be well aware of all these new sayings and whatnot. But sometimes I truly feel like an old soul just trapped in this body. I definitely felt this way a couple of weeks back and somebody told me that I give off total main character vibes, and the way they said it sounded like a compliment, so I just went with it. But I had no idea what they were getting at. Maybe I was dressed like a main character from a well-known movie or show; I had no clue. We also live in a time where everything has double meanings, and some can just be absolutely terrible. So I looked it up on a well-trusted source… Urban Dictionary. Can you believe it is a syndrome? I have never laughed so hard, man! How did we get to this point in life? That right there is my Roman Empire, but that is another saying and topic I have saved for another time. Anyways, according to my research, all I get from being the main character is just having confidence and prioritizing yourself. Which I see nothing wrong with. Of course, too much of anything is bad, so keeping that energy level balanced, I would say, is safe and at times even beneficial. So I correlate this with having confidence, and with that, the topic of this post is being the main character in your life. Before I dive into this, remember what I tell you is not for you to try to be more like me, because being the main character in my life is different from being the main character in your life. My life and your life are separate; I offer perspective for you to apply to your own personal situations. We are also in a time where I have to explain myself about everything, but it’s fine. I get it and understand where some things can get lost in translation.

So here it goes…

I believe this to be such a good topic for the ladies because, from experience and what I have seen, we are the ones who struggle the most trying to put ourselves first. It is easy for us to look at someone else as the main character and find it hard to believe that we could be one ourselves. Why is that? I am sure there are plenty of explanations, and that could be a rabbit hole in itself, but I am not a women’s studies major, so I cannot even begin to attempt that question. But I do know a few reasons we choose to put people over ourselves and why we lack confidence in ourselves as well. Some of these reasons overlap, but they are so impactful in our lives, especially when you analyze them in your particular situation.

So first, we sometimes prioritize people over ourselves. By doing so, we value their opinions and lives over our own. Going hand in hand with that, we will compromise ourselves to do what is acceptable and valuable to them. We are left with confusion as to what we stand for and believe in, especially if that means going against the current. Lastly, when you do not truly know yourself, you cannot be confident in yourself. You could see the same behavior with a bunch of people. People you love, people you hate, people you envy, people you idolize, people in superior positions, friends, and family. This list goes on and on, but you have to remember that you are the main character of your life, and nobody can make you feel less than that. The only acceptable answer to put before yourself is God, and that is all.

I tend to make this joke that this is my world and you all are just living in it. People who know my personality find it to be funny, but this is just my humor. As I have mentioned before, I am a pretty confident person. I will say, sometimes I can be a little too confident, but mostly, that is just for fun. But trust me when I tell you, I used to be the complete opposite, and that was not too long ago. I say this very vulnerably because I am not proud of it, but I prioritized men a lot and what they thought about me, what they would find cute, sexy, and girlfriend material. I would totally compromise myself according to the guy I was involved with and their needs and wants. I never thought about myself once, never valued myself, and had absolutely zero confidence. This was also just one aspect of my life. I used to prioritize my coaches and what they thought about my performance and my worth as an athlete. I still struggle with prioritizing my family because I love them with all I have got, and we are very close, but you have to identify and prioritize who you are outside of your family. That part is crucial as you ladies continue to get older as well and begin to think about marriage and starting a family of your own. I’d also say it is extremely crucial because whether it is family or just people you are very close to, they will have opinions and suggestions on your life and which path to take and which not to. They are not to blame for any of it though, the majority of the time they are unaware they are even doing it. However, this is why you need to know yourself and be able to take a hard stand on the governance of your life. Now, if you are under 18, this is not your sign to go seek emancipation lol. But it is your life, and everybody is just living in it. So keep that in mind and let that be the little chip on your shoulder that you needed and continue to live your fabulous life and have a fabulous and fun weekend. GO BLUE and FINS UP!!